Choosing the First Dance Song

Choosing that first dance can be a difficult decision for many couples due to be married whereas for others they do not even have to think twice about their first song as they know straight away what it will be, whether it is the first song they danced to together or perhaps the song that was number one in the charts the first day that they met. 

Whatever your choice is the song should be special to the pair of you!

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Usually it is the bride and groom that start the evening off with the first dance.  They are out on the dance floor for a while surrounded by their guests who are clicking away with cameras and mobile phones and after a while the couple are joined by the wedding party such as the best man, the maid of honour and then the couple's parents before everyone begins to take to the dance floor one by one.

At some weddings, the first song may just be a lovely song playing in the background while the newly married couple hold each other on the dance floor, whisper sweet nothings in each others ears while the wedding guests watch them with smiles on their faces.  On occasion, the first song may start out as a romantic slow dance but could turn into a choreographed dance routine that the couple have set up to surprise their friends and family.  A structured dance routine for some couples may be scary but once they take that first step and hear the applause and screams of joy it will be a dance routine that they will never forget.

Reasons Why You Pick Your First Dance Song

Following are a few other reasons why the first song played at your wedding may be the choice for you and your partner:

  • It could be the theme tune to your favourite film that you watched together.
  • It was the first song you requested on the radio for your new partner.
  • Maybe the song ties in with your wedding theme.
  • The words have meanings pertaining to your relationship.
  • You could choose a funny song that relates to your personalities.
  • You listened to it together as a couple on your first date.

Things to Consider When Choosing the first Dance Song

It can be difficult for any couple to choose a song that both of you actually agree on or even both like so consider your options carefully.  When thinking about your first song, remember:

  • Be sure to check the lyrics of your song, not only do you not want to offend anyone at your wedding or have any inappropriate words that children at your wedding might repeat, you also want the words to relate to you and your partner.  A song that you might consider romantic because of the music and its sound may not actually relate to a romantic relationship through the lyrics.
  • Ensure that you give your guests enough notice on the day that the first dance is coming up as they will want to get their cameras ready.
  • Ensure you speak to your music provider whether it is a DJ or a live band as they may not have the song you want in their collection.  Give them plenty of notice to find the CD or practice the song together so that they are able to sing it on the day.
  • If either of you are not so nimble on your feet and there is absolutely no chance of a dance routine being had then it could even be beneficial for one, or both of you to have a couple of dance lessons.  Yes the dance is about the couple but still, no one wants to be embarrassed or worse, fall over during the dance.
  • If you are having a live band, make sure that they are able to provide you with the song you want in their style of music, for instance a rap band may not be able to provide the best love song for you.
  • Pull both of your music collections together and see if there is a song hidden somewhere that the pair of you may have forgotten about but really enjoy listening to.
  • There is nothing worse than an extremely long slow song that the guests have to stand around and watch the newly married couple holding each other on the dance floor so keep in mind the length of your song, make sure it is not too long that it gets boring.
  • Whether you are slow dancing or have a routine, practice your dance together over and over before the big day.  If need be, set up some dance lessons for the pair of you and you will wow all of your friends and family with your fancy footwork.


Popular Choices

Everyone has different tastes and we have all been to weddings where we have not personally liked the choice of the first dance or perhaps felt that it was a great and unusual choice but at the end of the day it is a private song for the bride and groom.  Whether it is an old fashioned song, a more modern or even a slightly wacky song, some of the most popular songs at weddings over the years have included:

  • Aerosmith: Don't wanna miss a thing.
  • Andy Williams: Can't take my eyes off of you.
  • Barry White: My first, my last, my everything.
  • Bryan Adams: Everything I do.
  • Elvis Presley: Can't help falling in love.
  • Frank Sinatra: Fly me to the moon.
  • Harry Connick Jr: It had to be you.
  • James Blunt: You're beautiful.
  • Lonestar: Amazed.
  • Marvin Gaye: Sexual healing.
  • Robbie Williams: Angel.
  • Shania Twain: From this moment.
  • The Righteous Brothers: Unchained melody.
  • Tom Jones: Sex bomb.
  • Whitney Houston: I will always love you.

Just remember, when picking your first song there is no rule about what it should be, it is a personal choice and something for the both of you to enjoy so have fun doing it, but make sure you pick one that you really both like as it will be a song you will always relate to your wedding day!