Flower Girls

Flower girls are normally between the ages of 5 and 10. They will walk up the aisle in front of the bride carrying a posy of flowers.

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Should you have flower girls?

This is a dilemma many brides face if they have very young nieces. Many of you will feel you are damned if you do because of the uncertainty of how they might behave on your big day and you'll be damned if you don't, as if you don't have them then you might offend your relatives.

The thing to bear in mind is

  • It's your wedding, so you can have whoever you want
  • If you are going to have young children in the bridal party tell them and their parents as soon as possible, so they have time to plan and get used to the idea.
  • Take the young flower girls out to find an outfit.
  • Allow the young bridesmaids to voice an opinion on what they should wear. For example you can choose the bridesmaid dress and they could choose from a range of shoes and accessories, which you have selected.
  • Find outfits that the young flower girls look angelic in and compliment your wedding dress and the grooms wedding outfit.

Who should pay for the flower girl attire?

I had four young attendances at my wedding and we all agreed on a compromise at the start with all the parents concerned, that I would pay for each child's wedding outfit and that the parents would buy any accessories required, including their shoes.

I'm sure some of you will feel a little awkward about discussing who should pay for the young attendance outfits, but if you reach a compromise as I did in the early stages of your wedding preparations then you need not have to worry about it at all.

Small budget

  • Come to a compromise with the parents of the young attendees involved and agree to how much you can afford to spend on their wedding attire, and how much they will contribute.
  • Many of the high street shops sell off the peg bridesmaids outfits at competitive prices.
  • If you shop around you can buy off the peg dresses, which you can use as a bridesmaids outfit. All you may want to do is add a ribbon to the dress to increase the grandeur of it.
  • You can hire the flower girl outfits, but remember to insure them for any damage.

Large budget

  • Do not compromise, pay for the all the young attendance wedding attire.
  • Have the flower girl outfits made.

Whatever your budget remember to buy gifts for the young attendances, thanking them for all their hard work. Traditionally jewellery, which has been engraved, is given.