The role of the usher was traditionally given to a family member of the groom but in these modern times ushers have also been members of the brides family or close friends. To every 50 guests there should be an usher.

In this section

Leading up to the wedding day

  • If the groom and the Best man are wearing morning suits it is highly likely that you will be asked to do the same.
  • Make yourself available for a fitting of your morning suit.
  • If morning suits are not going to be worn choose an outfit which is smart and appropriate for the occasion, without upstaging the groom.
  • Follow the requests of the Best man
  • The Best man may ask you for help in arranging the stag night for the groom.
  • Attend a wedding dress rehearsal to finalise arrangements on the day.

Day of the wedding

  • Arrive early, before the groom.
  • Find out where the toilets facilities are, in case guests ask.
  • Collect the order of service sheets from the minister, so you can hand them out to guests as they arrive.
  • Have the buttonholes ready to hand out at the entrance to the church or venue for each of the guests.
  • Greet all guests as they arrive and direct family and friends of the groom to seats on the right hand side of the aisle and family and friends of the bride to seats on the left hand side.
  • Ensure all family members are seated close to the front.
  • Ensure the bride’s mother is escorted to her seat.
  • Seat any elderly guests and mothers with babies or very young children at the end of each aisle to allow easy access to the entrance.
  • Tell guests about any restrictions concerning photography and confetti.
  • Use your discretion when seating guests if there are large differences in numbers so that on both aisles there is a balance.
  • Consider seating ladies with large hats at the back of the church or venue so they do not restrict other guests view during the ceremony.
  • Before the bride and her father arrive ushers should take their place at the back of the church or venue.
  • Direct any late guests to the nearest seat.
  • After the ceremony ensure all guests have left to go to the reception and have not forgotten any of their property, before leaving yourself.