How to Choose Your Wedding Date

calendarPicking the perfect date for your wedding is an important decision that the couple should discuss and agree on together.  It will be a date that you will celebrate on your wedding anniversary for years to come.

It might not seem important when you first decide to get married but you may run into problems when you finally discuss the matter with your partner as things do crop up and you need to work round a number of factors, including:

  • Are you and your partner able to take the appropriate time off work? 
  • Are you pregnant? 
  • Can the caterers and venue fit you into their schedule? 
  • Do your family and friends already have commitments on that date? 
  • Have you discussed how long you want your engagement to be?
  • Have you left enough time to organise everything?
  • Is the church free?
  • Is the date you like near or on a special occasion already, i.e. a loved ones birthday? 
  • Will your honeymoon costs work out more expensive as the date is during school holidays?
  • Will your wedding date be too close to a family member's or one of your close friends?

There is of course the easy option of not setting a date and literally just packing your bags and eloping, but this isn't the right option for everyone.

Plan of Action

Once you and your partner have decided that you want to set a date, the first thing you will need to do is discuss how long you think it will take you to go about planning the wedding day.  If you feel you can make all the arrangements in six months, pick a date in that sixth month and you have something to aim for.  You should also consider:

  • Of extreme importance is booking the caterers and the venue, this is one of the main priorities you should consider when booking your date.
  • Be sure to check with your favoured family members and friends that they are not already on holiday or committed to another wedding etc.  You don't want them to miss out on your day so give them plenty of notice.
  • For sentimental reasons, choose a date that means something to the both of you, the day you met for example or the day you moved in together.
  • If you are pregnant, do you choose a date before or after the baby is born?  If you decide to pick a date which is before baby comes along, take into consideration that your dress may need to be altered a few times more than expected.
  • If you fancy an outdoor wedding it is important to consider the seasons, no one wants to be wearing a sleeveless dress while it is snowing outside.  Goosebumps on photographs are not a good look.  Likewise, wearing a fur covered shawl on a hot summers day might not be appropriate either.
  • It might be worth looking at future holidays booked by colleagues so your time off doesn't coincide and cause problems.
  • Men are renowned for forgetting their wedding anniversary so take this into consideration and maybe pick a date that you know he will remember.
  • Plenty of people get married on romantic days like Christmas Day or Valentine's Day but you should consider this carefully.  Are you the sort of person who would feel cheated out of your 'anniversary' due to a different celebration taking place?  This also could mean that your wedding day, as well as celebrating your silver wedding with a party might mean that a lot of your guests are missing.
  • Sporting widows should remember that the FA Cup Final is an important date to your fiancé and he won't want to miss it, therefore, keep an eye out for the important sporting events.
  • Try to exclude major holidays, set your wedding a week or two after or before a bank holiday for instance.

It might be an idea to draw up a checklist, perhaps with some sort of timeline to work on so for instance you can make a note that a few weeks before the wedding, you should both get haircuts or five months before you should pick out your first dance etc.

Remember to keep your discussions fun and light-hearted; the date you pick will affect your future life together as a couple.  It will be a wonderful happy day so the lead up to it should be just as exciting.