Wedding Buttonholes and Corsages

corsage 1Wedding bouquets can be almost anything a Bride wants them to be; they can have many additions such as pearls, pearl wire, glitz wire, diamantes, rhinestones, beads and feathers.

They can be of a traditional design and shape or a specific chosen design and shape!

Today's modern Bride-to-be has a fabulous array of choice when it comes to her wedding bouquet ranging from pearls to feathers, and lets not forget to mention the flowers!

Wedding flowers are chosen carefully to compliment the Bride and Groom's outfits as well as their bridesmaids, the best man, the flowers girls and not forgetting the mothers' of the Bride and Groom. Their flowers are also normally picked to match their outfits.

There is a difference between a buttonhole and a corsage and who wears what as well as which side it is to worn on.

Flowers and Wedding Guests

It is the Bride and Groom's choice if they extend the buying of buttonholes and/or corsages to other wedding guests and this can come down to the budget, how large the families are or wanting their flowers to be unique to the wedding party alone.

When guests decide to buy their own flowers the correct etiquette guidelines are that both female and males guests should wear a single flower buttonhole or corsage as they may end up taking away the special touches the Bride and Groom have chosen for themselves on their wedding day.

Brides and Grooms should not feel guilty if their budget does not stretch to buying buttonholes and corsages for guests outside their wedding party because today, most wedding guests expect to buy their own and not rely on the couple getting married.

Most buttonholes and/or corsages of wedding guests are often found abandoned on tables and the floor at the end of the night which should make couplesthink twice about supplying all if not most of their guests with flowers.


buttonholeWhen deciding on the Groom's buttonhole it is tradition that his is more unique and entirely different from the other male members of the wedding party, plus as he is the most important male member of the wedding party his buttonhole should ensure he stands out from the crowd giving him his own special look.

The best man's buttonhole can be similar but not as full as the Groom's and the remaining males such as ushers, page boys and any close family members are usually made up of a single flower such as a rose or a carnation with a leaf or two.

When supplying your wedding party with buttonholes and corsages the etiquette is for both of the Bride and Groom's parents, the best man and the ushers to wear flowers that match the Bride's bouquet. Adding the grandparents and any brothers and sisters of the Bride and Groom that are not in the wedding party can also add a nice touch if your budget allows.

Buttonholes are traditionally worn on the left lapel pinned to the back of the buttonhole of the man's suit jacket or tuxedo with the flowers facing upwards and the ones worn by the male members of the wedding party normally match the Bride's bouquet and/or the bridesmaids' dresses.

Some men do not like wearing flowers and others may even be allergic to them being under their nose for a few hours at a time. In cases such as these you can help by substituting the flowers for thistles, herbs, closed buds or even opt for silk flowers.


corsage 2The mothers of the Bride and Groom normally wear corsages and sometimes grandmothers are included and these female members of the wedding party have a wider choice because they can opt for a corsage to be worn on the wrist instead of being pinned to their clothing.

Corsages consist of a number of flowers that compliment the Bride's bouquet and these are normally worn on the right hand side with the flowers facing downwards. Popular flowers used for corsages are Singapore orchids, stephanotis, spray roses and calla lilies which can produce really beautiful displays.

It is advisable to consider the style and fabric of the dresses the ladies will be wearing because pinning a corsage onto a satin or silk fabric can drag down and mark the delicate material. (This problem can be overcome if when ordering your flowers you request a corsage magnet which will eliminate having to use pins).

The versatility of a corsage means it can be worn on an outfit, around the wrist or even pinned to a handbag. For strapless dresses or those females who do not wish to wear a tiny bunch of flowers on their outfits, wearing them on their wrists or on their handbags could be a better alternative for them.

Wrist corsages are easily attached to bracelets that can be made and designed from a wide or thin elasticised band of pearls or diamantes in a variety of styles and colours. Your choice of flowers can then be added. Flowers corsages can simply be tied with a pretty ribbon around the wrist.

History of Wearing Flower Buttonholes for Weddings

As with most of our traditions the flower buttonholes originated from the ancient Greeks when the male members of the wedding party wore a small bunch of fragrant flowers attached to their clothing near the heart. It was believed to ward off evil spirits who could turn the Groom's heart against his new Bride.

It was during the knights of the realm that the wearing of the buttonhole came to England and replaced the ribbons that used to be worn in a lady's colours upon their chest that signified their everlasting love.

During Anglo-Saxon times the men who accompanied the Groom used ribbons that were pulled through holes in the lapels to fasten their jackets and was looked upon as a love charm which magically tied the Bride and Groom together.

All of the above are just ideas and suggestions and when it comes down to your wedding day it is what you want and how you want it that is important. Your buttonhole and/or corsages can be as simple or ornate as you want them to be and it is also your choice who you buy them for!